O my, where to start? So many things have happened over the last couple of months that it's hard to know where to start. Without going into too many details, let's just say that it has been rough in the relationship department. For a good month it looked as though a divorce was iminant.the good thing is I came to my senses and we decided that we were going to try and work things out. We have been going to marriage counciling and I feel that we are making good progress & that our lives seem to be returning to what I would consider normal, for us.
Let me just say this much... COMMUNICATION!!! It is so so so important. I don't care if you are vanilla, kinky, or somewhere in between. A relationship in which you cannot have open lines of communication is doomed to fail. Simple as that. It is amazing to me, even now, how blown out of proportion something got, all because we didn't communicate effectively. Of course there were other factors at play in this situation that exponentially increased the perceived size of the problem, but the problem would have never occurred in the first place if we had both been better at having an open line of dialogue in that moment. But, that's not really the main goal of this post, I just felt that I had to get that out there. Too often we neglect to communicate our needs, or how we are feeling about certain things to our loved ones, and we need reminders that it matters. They are not mind readers.
Okay I'll get off my soap box now. Anywho...
So in the middle of all of this going down, I had decided that I had gotten complacent about my health and my weight. It got to the point that I didn't recognize the person I saw in the mirror, I wasn't happy with how I felt and I defiantly wasn't happy with my body.
So I decided that it was time for something to change. I started going to the gym three days a week, making better choices when I came to my food options, and drinking tons more water.
At first it was hard to just make it to the gym. I was so tired and so unhappy that just getting out the door was a chore. However, after about a month solid of going three days a week, I have come to really look forward to that time I spend working on me.
Last week I started lifting weights. I have started a program mostly centered around building my core strength, and exercises to help tone my arms and legs. My week has been looking something like this...
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Monday- Gym day: Core, Arms, Cardio (Arc Trainer, 15 min)
Tuesday- Treadmill workout at home. 30-40 minutes
Wednesday - Gym day: Core, Legs, Cardio
Thursday - Treadmill workout at home
Friday- Gym day: Core, Arms, Cardio
Saturday- Gym Day: Core, Legs, Cardio
Sunday- Rest day
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Next week, I up my number of reps by 5 and my number of minutes of Cardio by 5 as well. So on weights I'll be doing 3 sets of 17. Arms will go up to 40 lbs, Legs will go up to 100 lbs. Core will go up to 50 lbs.
I'm psyched to document my progress. Woot!
The photos are May 2013 @ 245 lbs.
Not a pretty sight! Since then I had dropped to 217. So, a 28 lb loss so far.
My over all goal is 140. It'll be a long road to go but it'll be so worth it.
